Hi! I’m joining the Five Minute Friday community again. Every week a group of writers gathers together as we exercise with free-writing. It has become more than just a link-up, but a community!
Read about Five Minute Friday here. Today’s prompt is: VACATION
When I think about vacation, I immediately think: beach trip! This year we are headed to the beach in a few weeks and we all can’t wait to get away. Last time we went we only had four children, now we have five. I no longer stress about packing up our lives for a week at the beach. I used to stress about getting every single little thing, even making a packing list. Now, I realize we can survive on little when we go without stress.
What really stresses me is having to be certain places at certain times. I hate to feel rushed. So when we go on vacation I like not having plans. We have a vague idea of what we will do, but really, we decide that day what we will do. I love it that way. This year we are going to the beach with my entire family: my mom, sisters, aunt, and brother (and his wife and children). The best part is we will all have separate condos to stay in! The best way to have vacation is not to have expectations.
Expectations seems to ruin a vacation, but when we go in with an open heart and mind we find the time spent together is much more relaxing. Isn’t that true with relationships as well?
Most of the time I’ve felt stress or frustration over friendships has been over expectations. When we arrived home with our little boy from China last year, I expected my friend to provide a few meals for us. Only, they didn’t. For weeks I held on to this frustration and disappointment until I spoke to my husband about it. He looked at me and said, “They offered to bring meals, but I told them we didn’t need them!”
It was all a misunderstanding. They were not being bad friends, I was holding on to expectations and felt the stress and frustration that brings. Vacation reminds me to let go of expectations, especially with relationships and accept what comes.