How to Turn a Season of Loneliness Into a Season of Fruit
Loneliness is defined as standing apart or isolated. Other words to describe loneliness include detachment, emptiness, and isolation.
Does this describe your life?
For me it means siting with my phone on the couch with the kids running around play and me skipping through social media trying to look for connection. And connection is the opposite of loneliness, isn’t it? Belongingness was one word used to describe the opposite of loneliness. Belonging. What a word, right? Even as children on the playground we want to belong. The child sitting along on a bench doesn’t really want to sit there. Deep inside he wants to belong. And so we never outgrow our belonging longing.
Seeking community is one way to find a sense of belonging. I’ve talked about it on the blog before here and here. What if you have a community but you still feel alone? I’ve never not gone to church, but there have been times I’ve struggled deeply with loneliness and not belonging (even within the body of Christ).
Paul spoke about feeling alone in Romans 8. Loneliness separates us from others, but no amount of loneliness can separate us from God. And as a new mom I struggled with feeling connected to people, but when I turned to my Savior, I never felt alone.
Romans 8:35 says: Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? (KJV)
Paul is saying, “Really?! Can ANYONE separate us from God?” Of course the answer is no. He continues in Romans 8:37- 39: “Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Do you believe the cure for your loneliness is found in communion with God? That’s it. If you don’t feel it and God feels far, remember the truth is true whether you believe it or not. There is comfort in Scripture. There is comfort in prayer. And in the daily communion with God, we find a way to fight through the loneliness. Notice I said “fight” and Paul uses the term “conquerors” – it is a battle we face. Don’t forget we are waging war against an enemy who would like to do anything he can to separate you from Christ.
Don’t let him. Fight the loneliness with truth.
LIE: I am not worth it.
TRUTH: God says I’m worthy.
1 Thessalonians 2:12 – “That ye would walk worthy of God, who hath called you unto his kingdom and glory.”
LIE: I am empty.
TRUTH: God fills me and is enough.
2 Corinthians 9:8 – “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.”
LIE: I don’t have enough faith.
TRUTH: God gives me enough faith.
Romans 12:3 – “For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.”
LIE: I’m invisible; no one sees me.
TRUTH: God always sees me. He is the God who sees.
1 Thessalonians 5:5 – “For you are all children of light, children of the day. We are not of the night or of the darkness.”
LIE: God doesn’t really love me.
TRUTH: God loves me.
Romans 5:8 – “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Psalm 86:15 – “But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.”
Can we turn a season of loneliness into a season of fruit? God can use your season (like He did with Jacob) to bring about a new spiritual revival in your heart. I pray if you suffer from loneliness God will remind you of the truth found in those verses above.
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