I wake up to little feet bounding down the stairs. As I make my way down to the kitchen, I am greeted by cheerful, but demanding voices. I’m hungry, I’m thirsty. Can we have mac n cheese to eat? I pour my coffee, rub my back and begin my day. Honest moments: I am lonely.
It is the simple conversation that dominates my day. Hey Mommy, did you know…. Mommy, can I please have another yogurt drink… Hey Mommy, can we go to the park…..Mommy? Hey Mommy! They are either demanding or fighting. I crave silence so bad that I leave them in the house for a few minutes to sit in our garage. A hot, sticky, gas-smelling sauna. I’d rather have the gas-smell and peace, even if it is just for a minute.
Sometimes at the end of the day, I realize that I have had NO adult conversation all day long. Maybe for five minutes on the phone with my husband, but other than that – all I talked about was superheroes, potty happenings, and why some caterpillars will not be butterflies but moths.
I am in a season of loneliness.
It is not my first season of loneliness. Right out of high school during the summer before my first year of college I was in a season of loneliness. My “friends” left for bigger and better things. We switched churches. Even though I was a home-body, I still felt extremely lonely on Friday nights with nothing to do. The Lord brought me a friend. She was older than me, with three small girls. Her husband worked nights. She was alone in the evenings. Looking back, maybe she was lonely as well and didn’t mind a teenager coming over to just talk. We studied God’s Word. She mentored me and helped mold me into the person I am today. We are still close friends. That season ended with college, which led to new friends, which led to a best friend, which led to a marriage, and well…
Six years ago I was beginning a new season of loneliness. My first baby was born and I became what I *thought* I had always wanted to be: A Stay At Home Mom! Spoiler for all you soon-to-be or want-to-be stay-at-home-moms: it can be lonely. That shocked me, how lonely that time was. I’ll never forget what my mom told me though: Enjoy this time, she said. Study God’s Word. Take advantage of naptime and having free time. FREE TIME?! What?! With a newborn?! Little did I know how much free time I really did have. I felt so alone at the time. Moreover, I thought the season would pass faster – just like that summer before college. Nope. I am still in a season of loneliness.
I am still taking my mother’s advice though: studying God’s Word and taking advantage of naptime.
In a recent article at the LMP Blog, Lindsee shared how God wanted her all to Himself. She was going through what would be considered as a time of loneliness. Yet, she saw it as a time where she could be alone with Jesus.
She quoted Isaiah 30:15 (which is actually a verse I have been meditating on for a week now):
For thus says the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel:
“In returning and rest you shall be saved;
in quietness and confidence shall be your strength.”
But you would not.
But you would not. Israel balked at the idea of returning to God. Have I been bulking this season of loneliness? Similarly, have I been trying to avoid being lonely because I thought it a negative feeling? We can embrace this season. It is a season that we can be alone with Jesus. We can pour our hearts out to Him. He can have all of our attention (at least during naptime and/or bedtime). He is enough.
But you would not. Israel did not want God to be enough to defeat their enemies. They wanted chariots. Also, they wanted armies. God wanted to be their strength and confidence. Do we see this season of loneliness as a season of emptiness? And do we see the strength that awaits us when we rest and return to God?
You will keep him in perfect peace,
Whose mind is stayed on You,
Because he trusts in You.
Trust in the Lord forever,
For in YAH, the Lord, is everlasting strength.
The Lord will guide you continually,
And satisfy your soul in drought,
and strengthen your bones.
You shall be like a watered garden,
and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.
Over and over again, during different seasons of loneliness, or aloneness, we must ask ourselves: IS GOD ENOUGH?
Yes, he is dear one.
Embrace this season; embrace feelings of loneliness and run to God. We may not have all the answers. For instance, we may still need to have a lunch date with a friend. We still need to go to church and meet with other women. And we may still feel lonely. He may not give us people to cure our loneliness, but He will give us Himself.
Truly my soul silently waits for God;
From Him comes my salvation.
He only is my rock and my salvation;
He is my defense;
I shall not be greatly moved.
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Sarah E. Frazer is a writer and Bible study mentor at sarahefrazer.com. She is the wife of Jason and mother of five who all serve as full-time missionaries in Honduras. Her passion is to encourage women to fall in love with the Bible. Sarah is the author of several Bible study resources for women. She shares tools for deep-rooted Bible study at sarahefrazer.com. Follow her on Instagram (http://www.instagram.com/sarah_e_frazer) and join her free prayer challenge at sarahefrazer.com/prayer